分手后我能成为你的什么?

  两个人从相识、相知到相爱,在交往一段时间后,由于种种的原因,最后不欢而散,在分手时,总有一方会说出那句最真实的谎言——希望我们还能是朋友。如果是我,并且觉得自己非常的受伤,彼此爱过,恨过,就不可以做朋友,我想也只能做最熟悉的陌生人了。未曾刻骨铭心,分手后做朋友谈何容易?分手后,我还能是你的谁? 
    分手后不能做朋友。我选择做陌生人的理由是:既然分手了,就不要再有暧昧的关系,那样只会让自己伤心,难受,进也不是,退也不是,既然分手了,就彻底的退出,快乐的生活,开心是现在唯一的追求。我只能对他说句对不起,不管是什么原因,分手了就分手了,既然我们不能再相互爱下去,就让我们做陌生人吧。  
   分手后不能做朋友。如果你曾经深深的爱过这个人,他曾经是你生命中不可分割的一部分,那么怎么去转换角色,才能若无其事的把他看成是一个朋友?这对大多数人来说,恐怕都是难以做到的。 
   分手后不能做朋友。如果说分手后,还会保持联系,这只能说明有一方还没真正放下对方,他还不愿从对方的生活中彻底消失,所以会找各种看似很冠冕堂皇的理由去接近对方。可是,扪心自问,如果你们是真正的爱过一场的话,如果他真的对不起你,真的能做成朋友?NO,因为现实是残酷的,并没有我们想象的那么多姿多彩。 
   分手后不能做朋友。假设双方分手之后都另结新欢,你却仍以旧爱做朋友,新情人心理怎么想。谁不认为你与旧爱是藕断丝连呢?新欢必然心中不满,更怕在拉拉扯扯中搞出一个对角关系来。虽然也有一些相安无事的例子,但这些故事总不免另人听出一丝尴尬来。当你看到旧情人,你又怎能忘记曾与他同甘共苦一起走过的日子?除非未曾刻骨铭心。 
    分手后不能做朋友。看着自己以前的恋人,与别人亲亲我我、欢天喜地,你心里真的就那么平衡吗?人都是有尊严的,何必自找苦吃呢?还是早点脱离苦海,把它封在心里,怀念,或者扔掉它,重新过自己的生活这才是明智之举! 
    分手后不能做朋友。分手了,不做朋友是为了不再给对方希望,不给任何机会,这个人没爱过你或者已经不再爱你,再抱着希望简直是一种酷刑,放手,反而是大家解脱的最好办法,而做为任何一方,既然没有了爱,也就没有必要苦恋不舍了。所以,既然没有缘分一路同行的走下去,那就彻底分开吧,默默的祝福你,但是我的生活中,已经没有你。
    分手后不能做朋友。分手之后仍要做一对朋友,岂不是把过去的一切又带回自己的生活中?何苦呢?歌里就这样唱到:“日复一日,年复一年,淡忘了原初的伤疤,只是一回想起来,还是有一丝隐隐的酸楚在脑海里残留着,久久不能散去。曾经挚爱的人转眼间已成陌路,那份爱也已经随风而逝,说是可以忘记,可生活就象表演,不经意间的相遇,看着她远去的背影往昔一样在脑海间漂动,那种伤是难以语表的。慢慢发现,激情与浪漫已渐渐远去,难以再爱。 ”  
    是啊,有时候感情就像一场游戏,但也并不是谁都愿意这么做。人这一辈子记得最多的应该是最快乐的那段日子,即使有伤害和痛苦,也不会为此后悔过,人不能后悔,后悔就代表否定自己,否定自己那就不可能快乐。也许你的收获仅仅是一些支离破碎的记忆,并不如你想象的那么美好,有一个美满快乐的结局,但起码自己曾经那么的珍惜和努力过,足矣》》》
  分手后:   

 ---不可以做朋友  

 ---因为彼此伤害过  

 ---不可以做敌人

  ---因为彼此深爱过 

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incident

我今天下午去中国超市买菜,在回家的路上我被两给黑人打劫,太可怕了,我惊魂未定的除了害怕就什么也不会干了。按理来说,我家住在多伦多一个很安全的区,竟然在大白天也会发生这样的事件,吓死我了。等我清醒以后,我马上就给911打电话,一会警察就来了,和我作了笔录,吓坏我了,不幸中的万幸就是那两个人没有伤害到我,我越想越后怕,我明天一定要去拜拜佛,佛祖保佑

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innocent

我好郁闷,赫赫

有一个广东的男人,说他很爱我,我到底要相信吗?

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i want to say sorry to him

today i hurt him heart

i am so sorry~

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my birthday

我的妈呀

呵呵

今天是我20岁的生日咯

呵呵呵

我老公alan给我做的晚饭哟

呵呵

他的厨艺,说实话还好啦~

不过我真的很感动哟

呵呵

他从多伦多飞过来的哟,呵呵,我好开心哟~

有些人,有些事,一生难忘哟~

呵呵

 

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toronto

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fight incident

前几天我去温哥华度假,这是一个太棒的假期,呵呵,可是当我回来的时候,我坐的飞机出事了,我现在能坐在电脑前面叙说这段故事真的都已经很万幸了。

我有飞机恐惧症,我害怕一切密封的环境,尤其是飞机上的那种让人窒息的感觉,所以我一上飞机就睡觉了,过了大概一个小时之后,我被一阵剧烈的颠簸感给震醒了,由于飞行中我没有记安全带,所以我几乎是被抛上去的,我的头狠狠的撞了一下,好疼。

一开始我以为飞机已经降落到地面上了,再加上我是被吵醒的,几乎没有意识到事情的严重性,当我迷迷糊糊的看到窗外我仍然悬停在半空中的时候,那种迷迷糊糊的状态被拉回现实中强烈惊吓的感觉,让我至今都难以忘记。飞机是以一种可怕的速度俯冲下去,那种感觉真的和游乐场的过山车的感觉一模一样 ,所不同的是,过山车只是一时刺激,没有什么生命危险。而在飞机里面的感觉真的觉得死亡离你真的好近。说不准,几分钟之后,一个活生生的人灰飞烟灭。那种人的求生欲和对死亡的恐惧让整个机舱里的人大呼小叫哭爹喊娘。那一刻,我真的感觉我也许就真的再也见不到明天,那种恐惧感不是一两部恐怖片所能带来。

我已经知道飞机可能是引擎上除了一些问题,所有的氧气面罩已经弹出,我那是的心脏已经快飞出身体,大脑已经没有任何的思考,飞机继续向地面俯冲,我看到外面的农场越来越大,死亡就感觉越来越近。我和我们坐在一排的乘客全部手拉着手,每个人都已经闭上眼睛等待着最后时刻的到来,90%的乘客在哭泣,各自用不同的语言说着什么,那时候我的脑子里面只有我的家人,其他什么都没有。

突然飞机在一次剧烈震动,我们能感觉到飞机突然被拉起来,但仍然是在低空飞行,那一刻我知道也许我们还有机会。

十分钟以后,我的飞机迫降在卡尔加里机场,然后我们换一件飞机飞往埃德蒙顿。当飞机降落在埃德蒙顿机场的时候,所有的乘客气体鼓掌。

我从登机舱走来的时候,我觉得站在地面上是多么美好的一件事,所有的人全部坐在地上给亲人,爱人打电话。但是我没有那样做,因为我一个人在加拿大,绝对不能让父母担心,至今他们都不知道这件事。

现在想起来,真的很刺激,当时我真的被吓得魂都丢了,太可怕了~

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culture shock

As a new international student to Canada,I met the culture shock as most of aliens.

There is an idiom in China" Food is what matters to the people".Our chinese look on food as a culture which can smooth the relation ship between people,and slove some promble on business,that's not just fill our stomach.But that's totally not the case in Canada,Here we must eat like mute in restaurant.That's the culture shock of food.

As for the life style differences,I can list thousands of them,I saw the strangest scene was the parade of homosexuality.China do have gays and lesbians,but they see this topic as a very very privatething even to their parents.For their mother may commit suicide when she saw her children like that.but Canadian are not,if they love each other,they can get marry.

In Canada,we have a lot of culture shocks,the same suggestion is:while life can't adapt to us,we should adapt to life."

So,I got the rule:when in Roma,do as the Romans do". 

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该死的加拿大

从小到大我从来都没有为钱发过愁,可是今天我确确实实的好难受,这种感觉没有人会体会。为了这该死东西,一整晚我都没有睡,好难受,我又重新看了一遍《流星花园》,觉得好幼稚的电影,但我曾经也为她感动过。

天下人什么都不理解我,不会懂我,任何人,包括程一芃。

在那个电影里面,我真的好想有一个可以让我不必烦恼,操心的男人

可以永远呵护我

我好难过!

我想回国!

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THE COUNT OF MONTE CRISTO

Edmond (Jim Caviezal) is sailing in French waters along with his best friend, Fernand (Guy Pearce) , when their captain falls ill. They stop for help at a nearby island, which happens to be where Napolean Bonaparte is in hiding. Bonaparte pulls aside Edmond and asks him to deliver an "innocent letter" to an old friend in Marseille, France. Edmond agrees, as that is the price for the use of Napolean's physician. The captain unfortunately dies, so the crew returns home to Marseille. Edmond is made captain for his bravery in seeking a physician, and the first mate comes to despise him for it.

Fernand finds out about the letter, and reads it while Edmond is sleeping, and is angry that Edmond did not tell him about it. Edmond, not knowing that Fernand knows about the letter, rushes to greet his fiance, Mercedes, and tell her that they can now be married as he was just promoted to captain. This is also the point in the movie when you realize that Fernand is in love wiht Mercedes, but she loves Edmond.

Fernand, still angry, decides to work together with the furious first mate, and get Edmond arrested for treason, which he didn't commit. Fernand works also with a very important magistrate, Villefort, who's father is the man Edmond was to deliver the letter to. (Villefort does not know of this). Thus, Edmond is arrested, and thrown into a remote island prison by the name of Chateau D'if. There, he meets Priest, who teaches him many valuable lessons about life, how to sword fight, and give Edmond a proper education. All this is in turn for Edmond helping to dig, in order to escape the prison.

For 13 years, Edmond is held captive in the Chateau D'if, and unknown to Edmond, a letter was sent to his family and Mercedes saying that he was executed on grounds of treason. Finally, Edmond escapes when the priest dies, and becomes part of a crew on a merchant vessel, along with his good riend Jaccapo. After 3 months, Edmond is released along with Jaccapo, and they go in search of finding out what has happened to Edmond's loved ones. They find out that Edmond's father commited suicide, and the Mercedes wed Fernand a month after learning of Edmond's execution. Edmond has by this time (with the help of the priest while in prison) figured out that he was framed by Fernand and the others. Thus, he and Jaccapo sail to a remote island that the Priest told Edmond about, and there they find a treasure, making Edmond extremely wealthy. Edmond decides to become a count in order to get revenge on those who betrayed him, so he becomes The COunt of Monte Cristo, being the treasure he found The Treasure of Monte Cristo.

Soon after, he "saves" Fernand and Mercedes' son Alber from captivity, and thus enters the lives of those he is trying to hurt like they hurt him. Mercedes begins to suspect that The Count is really Edmond, and when she confronts him privately, he denies it but slips and she realizes that he really is Edmond. Then, they kiss, and realize that they are still in love, so Mercedes goes back ot her Chateau to inform Fernand that she is leaving him, when Fernand tells her that he has gone bankrupt (which is really Edmond's doing, but he doesn't know this) and is leaving the country. (By this time, Villefort has been convicted of murdering his father and sent to jail, also doings of Edmond's). Mercedes preceds to inform Fernand that Alber is not his son, but Edmond's. Fernand becomes angry and goes out to his old, abandoned villa to collect the gold he had supposedly stolen from The Count of Monte Cristo, only to find that it is not there (Edmond's doings, again). Then, Edmond shows up, and tells Fernand where he has been all these years, and they begin a duel, only to be stopped by Mercedes and Alber. Mercedes then tells Edmond that Alber is really his son, not Fernand's. Fernand then shoots Mercedes in the shoulder (she lives) and runs off. Edmond follows him and they begin sword fighting again. Fibally, Edmond kills Fernand, and goes back to Mercedes and Alber and Jaccapo. At the very end, Edmond buys the Chateau D'if thanks the Priest for his wisdom and help.

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